MY GIRLFRIEND PLANNED A VACATION WITH ANOTHER MAN

Relationships often come with their fair share of challenges, and my friend Uncle OGA recently found himself grappling with a situation that left him feeling uneasy and insecure. Bolanle, his girlfriend, casually dropped the bomb that she had planned a weekend getaway with her male bestie, leaving Uncle OGA in a state of confusion and concern.

Despite knowing this friend for two years, Uncle OGA couldn’t shake off the negative vibe he was getting. The fact that everyone around them assumed they were a couple added another layer of complexity to the situation.

In addition to this Uncle OGA had experienced being stood up by Bolanle on several occasions because of her bestie. Each time Uncle OGA raised his concerns, Bolanle dismissed him, accusing him of insecurity and asserting that he didn’t trust her. This pattern of behavior left Uncle OGA feeling disregarded and uneasy.

Adding to the tension was Uncle OGA’s upcoming relocation for a job. The prospect of Bolanle planning a vacation without him just before his deployment intensified his negative feelings. It seemed to him like she was going to fill his spot with her male bestie.

While it’s healthy for partners to have friendships outside the relationship, it’s equally important to consider the feelings and comfort level of your significant other. To avoid putting your relationship in jeopardy, it is important for couples to set ground rules and agree on what is acceptable in terms of spending time with opposite-gender friends, especially in scenarios that might trigger insecurities.

In this case, Bolanle needs to evaluate her priorities and ensure that her actions align with the values and commitments shared with Uncle OGA.

Navigating friendships outside a romantic relationship requires open communication, understanding, and consideration for each other’s feelings. Uncle OGA and Bolanle have a crucial conversation ahead, one that will shape the future of their relationship.

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