Stop Assuming,Start Asking Questions

Someone said assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge and that is very true. Making up scenarios in your head of things that havenʼt happened or didnʼt happen would only affect you negatively—assuming without evidence could land you and others into trouble.
Assumptions are a breeding ground for conflict in any relationship, and It is best to ask questions and find clarity than run with an idea you made up.
Lack of trust is one reason people jump to conclusions instead of approaching situations rationally. You donʼt trust that the other person cares about your feelings, and wonʼt hurt you, so you attack them instead. You see your partner smiling at their phone and assume they are chatting away with someone else, and then you pick fights based on a feeling that hasnʼt been proven true.
You see them with something new and assume they got it from a new lover, so instead of politely asking where they got it, you immediately make accusations to fit into the narrative in your head. Or you act passive-aggressive and sulk, hoping they ask you so you can accuse them. Both ways of approaching the situation will bring nothing but distress to you and make you look like an insecure, self-centred person.
It is not a healthy way of life because every move the other person makes would be interpreted as bad. Also, it is terrible for your health; constantly worrying about things that didnʼt happen but seem like they did would badly affect you, and it may cause you to stop eating and sleeping.
You will also come across as a problematic person to the other party, and no one wants to be around a difficult person, so they may decide being away from you is the best thing to do.
If you are the type to make assumptions, breaking the habit may be hard but not impossible.
Consciously decide to ask first and then act instead of acting first. It will be good for you and everyone you care about.